He wants to go straight into sex and no foreplay whatsoever. Each time I've tried to initiate it, he would say "Babe, you are my girl, you don't have to do that. How or what can I do to make him feel comfortable with me to eventually perform oral sex before the actual sex?
One reason sex can't be one thing is because it's not the same thing for everyone. That means we have to compromise. When we're lucky enough to meet someone with the exact same sexual interests as ours, those compromises tend to be minimal: sometimes she gets to be on top when you want to be; sometimes he gets to come first; etc. In this situation, BF isn't really meeting anyone halfway, he's just getting exactly what he wants. Not fair. Many of the women I know, most of them in fact, have difficulty coming without some form of clitoral stimulation, before or during.
By your guy denying you foreplay, he's basically saying "only I get to come," which is obviously not ideal. Sounds like he had a bad experience once with giving head and has decided it's not for him. That's like having a bad first day of school and deciding that education is for other people. I think you should ask him to consider trying again. While many men may seem ideal after just a few weeks of dating, upon closer inspection, there can be warning signs that you should avoid a relationship with this person.
It is important to recognize these warning signs before it's too late. The alternative is waking up one day down the road divorced with five kids and fifty thousand dollars in debt, watching re-runs of "Honey Boo Boo" on Nick at Nite. OK, maybe I'm exaggerating.
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But the truth is, as much as we often ignore the warning signs of a potentially bad relationship early on in the dating process, these issues don't go away. Most behaviors only grow worse over time. So, instead of jumping into that long-term relationship with a man you suspect may be wrong for you, let's take a look at fifteen types of guys to avoid getting into long-term relationships with in the first place. The set-in-his-ways guy. These men will only become more rigid over time. Dating someone who refuses to do anything new makes for a long-term relationship that is both boring and one-sided.
Assuming that he will eventually change and open up to your hobbies is misguided. This will likely never happen. The pick-up-after-me guy. You are his partner, not his maid.
Men who expect you to clean up their dishes, pick up their clothes and take care of them as if they are little children on a consistent basis need a really check, and will likely treat you as if you are their mother for the rest of their lives. The always-looking-for-a-deal guy.
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Be wary of men who constantly look for deals and comment on prices early on in the dating process. While everyone likes a good deal, real men will not make this known when courting a woman. These are signs that he will likely be very cheap throughout the duration of the relationship. The I-need-to-watch-sports-all-the-time guy. There's nothing wrong with sitting on the couch and watching sports.
Many guys do.
But this should never trump the responsibilities of a relationship or take precedence over family obligations. There is a difference between loving sports and having a childish obsession with them.
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Choose a man who knows the difference. The what's-for-dinner guy. Expecting a home cooked meal every single night makes for a relationship that will likely feel unbalanced in the long run. Again, you are not his maid. But you can control what you say.
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